Hi dear Dad,
Tell me… it’s been quiet for some time. The pressure seems to be taking off a bit. Is it?
“Hi Bon, no we carry on steadily. It is just that you are busy with other things from time to time….”
Haha, yes Dad, how easily we get distracted here on Earth.
“Yes Bon, not just on Earth but also by yourself. Sometimes you are pretending to be someone again who you aren’t really. And that is a role you taught yourself. “
Question Dad: I saw another discussion that when you are offering spiritual services, you cannot charge anything for it. That way it will be quite difficult to pay your costs.
“Ha Bon, here that is same as in any other job. You know, in the past clairvoyants were honoured and cared for by the people around them. For them there was no reason to occupy themselves with anything other than to perfect their own gift by which they could serve humanity. Unfortunately, these days you have to pay your own rent. We live in a society in which you have to take care of yourself.
You know Bon, money keeps having a weird taste. Money is energy and can supply enormous abundance. At the same time it enables lots of research, which results in aid for many people. But of course money also has its flipside in abuse of power and thinking in shortage. It is a very interesting challenge how the human being handles money in her or his life. The question is, do we still need the system of money on Earth? Yes indeed, as long as you have a judgement with regards to it, it will remain. Don’t judge it anymore, and something will seize to exist, for you. However, some things on Earth are part of the collective judgement of people. Hence it is still there. Every judgement we have about it is visible on Earth. From beautiful philanthropic organisations to abuse and exploitation of people. There is judgement, so there is also the manifestation.”
Beautiful Dad. So if I no longer have any judgement about something it seizes to exist?
“Yes, if you have no judgement, something is there or it isn’t. Often when you like or dislike something it keeps having your focus. No judgement, no focus. Judgement is what keeps you holding on to it, doesn’t it?”
Yes Dad, I understand. So if I don’t judge anymore… pff hard … then things sort of dissolve?
“Haha, beautifully said Bon, that’s it.”
Okay, but then it is important to start researching all the things I have judgements about.
“About everything Bon, and all around you!”
Yes, so now what?
“Telling you that having no judgement about something is pointless Bon, because you always do. But by understanding this you can just let it go by. You have trouble with what someone says about you, what someone thinks you should do or what you think about someone or something else. Let it go by Bon, like sticks floating in a river. Sometimes it storms and there are many sticks. Sometimes you want to tell someone they can stick it or something is a sticky job ….” (Haha funny Dad).
A stick is not tied to someone or something. Not sticky... just a stick.”
I am bursting with laughter, Dad, you are too funny! Such humour! Yes, then they will drift away by themselves and therefore also out of sight. Such fun again this, Dad. So no judgement. Then it is no longer there anymore.
“That’s right, Bon. Try to see everything as a stick the next few days. Both your positive and negative judgements and let them float by on the river of life.”
Ohhhhh thank you. Good to feel your love and humour like this. I feel blessed how wise your words are now that you are there. And how you can inspire me this way.
“Haha Bon, you’re funny too. Nicely said but you are right. I am a lot wiser. By the way, all the parents that are here ….”
Hi dear Dad. So nice, your last message. It consoled so many people. It not easy to see why things happen, and what the bigger picture is.
“You know Bon, sometimes the bigger picture is just that humanity is asleep, that they still believe in separation, in power and violence. It is definitely not something ‘sent’ from here. Nor something sent by ‘God’! The idea…!”
No, it is the responsibility of humanity itself, that by the way is a part of ‘God’, or ‘Life’. We have made our own choices in this and the consequences are instantly visible. Beautiful how you saw how fear spreads, how it paralyses people. The interesting thing about it is that it is okay to really have a look at death.
You know why? Because if you do, you will see what death really is and your fear will disappear. If you don’t talk about it, if you conceal it, death will scare you as you grow older. And fear is the worst emotion to deal with for humans. But if your worst fear becomes reality, there will be no more fear for it, and there will be space for other emotions. Fear paralyses, fear puts a veil over your life. If you look your fear and death in the eyes, you will also feel life, you can feel the life inside of you. Especially now (which isn’t so much ‘now’, for these times go way back) fear spreads like a virus. An annoying virus that is, it makes you gasp for air, makes you visualize terrible images and ideas.
So don’t do that Bon, and everyone else reading this. Just don’t. Don’t be tempted, wipe off that virus and let love rule you. The virus cannot stand laughter, loving thoughts, loving feelings, connection, being together with others. So use that.
Right, I was gonna come back to the various healing techniques that I see here. Of course it is different because we simply don’t have a body made of earthly substance. Whole groups are working here, passing useful information to earth to heal the body. With the annotation that the body must be ready. Or the soul! Ready for a next step on its journey. We see so many examples on earth where healing can be done in a quick and efficient manner. The most important thing however, is prevention. And with prevention we mean cleansing body, mind and emotions. A lot of pollution takes place energetically and then settles down and manifests itself in the body. It may sound strange, but here I have seen the power of laughing. It is incredible. I should have done that with my patients, I should have played funny movies in my treatment rooms. Bon, next time you have to laugh, or just even arouse laughter by yourself, really feel what happens inside your body, and especially inside your heart! Even just a smile will do the trick.
This is really the best prevention method there is: LAUGH! Of course, on earth I experienced that when you hear you are very ill, there is not much to laugh about. But it will make the healing of the body so much more difficult. The human body has such a beautiful build-in healing system. But thoughts and emotions so often get in the way… The emotions that cause most of the problems on earth are fear, revenge and grudge. And the most important solutions are laughter and forgiveness.
And yes, Bon, this sounds so simple. But do it… every day.
Also, I have experienced what music and light can do for the cells in your body. A really conscious, loving touch. When another human being embraces you, strokes you, holds you while really being present, it will cause a huge amount of light. And exactly this light of presence will enlighten you”.
Love that sentence Dad, I really like those words. ‘The light of presence will enlighten’
“Music gives a frequency of light and so do colors. Also thoughts, presence, touch, love, gratitude. A lot of experiments are being done with the frequency of light and the effect it has on the cells in the body. When an illness develops in a body, it is of utmost importance that you still see yourself as healthy. And by that I don’t mean denial, I mean as a soul you still are a beautiful, radiant, vital creature. That immediately will give another feeling in your body. Also, when sending healing thoughts to others, it is essential that you practice seeing them them as whole, vital and radiating. A deep feeling of love and ‘all is well’ will help you doing so. So, put it on your ‘wishing well list’; it is important not always to tell people what is exactly wrong with the body. For this will form an image in your mind and heart, and that will send out misbalance. Also, looking at pictures of a sick body will instantly shape an image in your mind. So it is better to give an image of a healthy body and all its thoughts and feelings that go with that health. Some people on earth are very good in perfectly visualizing the vital healthy body. The practice in this is to keep that image and to connect it with a feeling of gratitude and a deep knowing that all is well. Just that will give enormous and miraculous results. And it will stay miraculous for you as long as you still don’t see that it is just science;)
Besides earthly causes for sickness like pollution (material and in your mind) that make the body ill, there are also spiritual causes that you are not able to comprehend with your mind. But trust that it is all right. It may not be what you wanted, but it is good, seen from the light and eternity of the soul.
And with regards to your question about being brain dead and donor donation: I said before, it is an act of love. But I also understand your fear of pain. And it is just that fear that will make you feel the pain. Do you understand wat I mean by that? Fear will give you pain, whilst there is no real pain.
Practically seen, braindead doesn’t have to be really dead, that is correct. But death is also not just dead, it is the letting go of the body. And we will accompany you there. Without pain. And should there be any pain, then the answer is to solve your fear and to let go of it. Should you be afraid of donor registration, than simply don’t do it. If you are not afraid, do register. Though on earth we are so advanced that we can keep a body alive with machines, that doesn’t mean that the soul will stay with it. That has other causes. But feeling the pain is like feeling symptom pain. Does it come from the brain, of from your thinking, from the mind of the person? And all pain and fear are symptom pains from life on earth. When you get here, you see that clearly”.
Jee Dad, I have to look into that. This is a complicated one… Brings me to the idea of nightmares; when I wake up from a nightmare I realize there was no real pain. But I can still carry the feeling of the nightmare with me in the morning.
“Yes Bon, symptom pain therefore. And that starts where? In thinking Bon.”
Okay, this will bring up more questions, I can already feel that. But that is good. It isn’t all clear to me yet also.
But it is nice Dad, that you are also so busy with healing over there, with healing experiments. Different than in your job here on earth though.
“Yes Bon, pig-headed as we are as doctors we never looked further than what we learned at school. But learning never stops, and neither do growth and insight. And so, that what we thought to be true can suddenly be outdated. The best thing you can give yourself is an open mind and a vast belief in infinite possibilities. Only then you can receive."
Dad, about my own situation.. So much storm and disturbance… When I stand still in the eye of the storm, all is well. But when I interfere I am pulled into the storm.
“Move Bon, step into the movement. Don’t be afraid where it will lead you. For it will lead you to the light. Do not worry so much. Enjoy the ride. And no, I am not going to tell you all the whereabouts. For this is about yóur experience. That is what makes it beautiful Bon, that is Love. Fully experiencing life and its movements”.
Thank you Dad.
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Hi Dad, long time ago. So much is happening In the world, and in my life. My spiritual teachers that went to their Home as well as all the movement at my home. And what about Paris, and all the violence everywhere.
Thank you for the special message you gave during our Sunday meeting.
About humanity being struck in the heart which is causing love to awaken. For Love lives in the heart.
“Hi my dear Bonnie. Movement, yes, all over. In the world and in the lives of people. Letting go, changing, holding on, emotions; harsh and soft. But it is all change. We have known for years this was going to happen. Funny thing about dreams Bonnie, is that when you only dream sweet dreams, you don’t want to wake up from them. You want to stay in that dream, in the life you know, in your beliefs. Sometimes, unfortunately more often than just, humanity needs a nightmare to come out of the dream. Their illusion of being separated, of power, abuse and violence. And that is what is happening at the moment. With you, with others around you and all over the world. Sometimes you wake up gradually from a dream, but more often you wake up abruptly. Or you are having a nightmare that suddenly opens your eyes, that touches your heart and as a result you can only move towards one thing; towards Love.
Still, you do have the choice not to wake up, not to really awaken and look around you. Whatever lives inside you will project itself on the outside world. What lives inside all people is shown now, around you, in the media, on the news. It is horrible, but just watch many people making a very clear choice for love and tolerance. Not everyone of course, but more and more will. More and more people will awaken by this nightmare. And we are all with you. Hold each other tight because the storms are heavy, but bearable and they will lead you to a new land, a new start, a new beginning.
And love wisely.”
Thank you Dad, tomorrow we’ll talk a little longer is that ok?
“Yes Bon, that is ok. I am not going anywhere, and neither are you. No one is, and we don’t have to go somewhere ‘cause we are all close and connected.”
That is beautifully said, Dad.
Hi Dad! A lot of questions. Just had a nice talk to mum on the phone. She said she is not gonna have to see you as a saint now doesn’t she…
“Ha-ha Bon, I got that one! No, no saint. I definitely wasn’t one. Only shows that while you are looking your whole life for truth, one can get lost in the patterns of childhood misery. It is quite difficult to untie yourself from your youth and the trauma’s caused there. You see it in your job as well Bon, it’s not easy to let go of the pattern that has become such a habit and makes you react in a way you don’t want to react. You have to be constantly alert, each and every day. If you don’t, you will have a setback.
No, we are so much more fun now, because we can feel our own essence so much better. Every day we are aware of what a huge source of love we are. En by realizing that, peace, trust and softness occurs naturally. No need to defend oneself anymore…
Yesterday, I was listening in during your workshop. You were completely right; it is of outmost importance to follow your own path, your heart, your magnificence. Not anyone else’s. That will only stop you from listening to your own heart. And yes, not opening your heart is what causes suffering. As I said before, you can raise the awareness of another human being, or an animal. But it is important that your consciousness remains on a high level. Don’t be tempted to a lower self-consciousness. Also, thoughts and feelings of love and gratefulness will allow you to touch that highest consciousness. Divinity and unity right after that. What a beautiful story yesterday, about the woman who just opened her heart totally with the elderly with Alzheimer and then sees the seniors recover and being present again.
And that’s what it is. Love gives an elevation in consciousness, an alertness in our lives. Fear and pain make that we close our hearts, lower our consciousness and also makes us less alert. We close ourselves from everything.”
Dad, is this really connected? Closing the heart and closing the world? Isn’t it more that Alzheimer does something with our brain?
“Yes Bon, but what is it that makes your brain alive and working? That is the life inside of you, the spirit inside. That’s is what makes the body work, isn’t it?”
Yes Dad, but now I have a lot of questions. For instance; what if you are born in a body that isn’t healthy?
“Well, I won’t say it is all the same. There are multiple reasons for things to manifest. I am just saying that opening the heart expands your consciousness, and therefore creates a bigger alertness in life. However, in life we come upon many obstacles and traumas that are hard to conquer. But you know, Bon, what is so great? When you open your heart, when you raise your consciousness, you will learn to understand more. And the only way is through love! Any other path will lead you to distractions, to your inner critic or to separation. Don’t wanna go there do you…
I get it Dad. Next question; Donor Registration. We get so many different messages about it. Also from the unseen world. What can you tell me about it?
“Donor registration is an act of love. When you decide to donate parts of your body to people with malfunctioning heart of kidneys, you give them the chance to experience life on earth longer. Not to say the longer the better though! There is no such judgement in time.
When you consciously decide to register, you will feel the love that you give with it. But what often confuses us are the messages about cells filled with preferences and even memories. Which is true, but what is not true, is that the person who died will remain attached to the organs or the person who receives the organs. This person may experience feelings, preferences or memories from deceased that were stored in his cells. But it doesn’t have to be like that. It depends. Listen, discussing this subject can cause a lot of fear. That alone must remind you that the information is not from us. Why should we want to frighten you? What’s the point? Fear only causes separation and a lower level of consciousness, remember.
The soul is not the body. You cannot take it with you in this world. Also, these stories about people will stay connected to their bodies longer when buried, or people feeling pain when cremated; they are all ghost stories. No Bon, it’s not true. And fortunately, here we are so much more in our essence of love. Believe me, when you arrive here, you really don’t want to be connected to your earthly body anymore. Here you are free and light and completely healthy. Je have this beautiful light body. And yes, you still look like you did on earth, but younger, more powerful. Or you recreate your light body. That is your own choice.
Memories are in your mind and soul, not just in organs. Of course, the body and its cells store information from the soul. Beautiful and also less beautiful information.
We would also like to tell you some about the idea that you can keep the ‘dead’ attached to earth. When you mourn a loved one, a lot of your thoughts go to him or her. We can feel that of course, and we also feel this deep need to let you know where we are, let you feel the amount of love that has awaken inside of us. We want to console you, to support you, ease your pain. We are not totally away, or in some state of total bliss. As you on earth can feel it when a loved one is not well, so can we. The only difference is that we don’t have to go with you in your suffering, that we feel so much more love here and therefore have more consciousness. We understand more. That is why you cannot hang on to us, cannot pull us down. We will try to enlighten you, enlarge your consciousness. That is what you felt, Bon. Je were quiet, you connected to my energy, and that enabled me to feed your consciousness with my love. By the way, more of you were connected to me..”
I love that Dad, but unfortunately not everyone can feel it.
“That is because of the strong emotions that occur, and the reflex how to react to them; to block them. Not wanting to feel anymore, finding distraction, finding ways to escape from what you feel.
So be still, ask for enlightment, and connect to the energy of those you love. We are so able to let you feel that. Also, because it makes your thoughts go out to us even more.”
Lovely Dad, this moves me so. But it is also frustrating that I cannot let everybody feel this feeling.
“All in time Bon. All in time….”.
Hey Dad, do you still do funny things there?
"Oh yes Bon, humour is so important. There are people here that already on earth made their living on humour. And they have improved themselves to perfection here. It is so beautiful to see what laughing does to the energy. It cleanses, it revitalises. And then the sound of laughter. It is contagious, the waves of humour and light we make spread all over the place and find their way to earth as inspiration for you there. Laughing is so healing! It is good to really laugh when you are feeling down. Watch a funny movie, go to the theatre. It will shake all the heavy energy from your body.”
Dad, as a doctor, how do you see that?
“I already thought; ‘when will that question come up?’ I have said something about it before, and I will talk about it again later. But he power of self healing in each person is so much bigger than I thought. Let me tell you about that next time. First I want to receive and look at inspiration about it myself a little more.”
Thank you Dad, talk to you soon.
Already 3 months ago since you left so suddenly. And now also Len, my teacher in mediumship. This beautiful man from Scotland, who dedicated his entire life to spreading the spiritualism. How are you, Dad? Strange how quickly I felt you and how I haven’t felt Len at all these last few days. I thought I felt him last night, but it was al still so vague. How come?
“Hi Bon, yes that’s right. It took a while with Len. Marlou felt it also. It is so important that you keep checking with each other. It’s nice how in that way you’ll get proof of what you are feeling. This evidence remains important, Bon.
And yes, Len did have some more trouble leaving his body and letting go of wat tied him to earth. And yes, with me everything went so much faster. But that is because I really left so quickly. I sort of jumped out of my body, or so it felt at least. I had no pain, but I was ready to let go of my body.
What you felt is true, Len needed some rest, he is recovering from his transition and first of all, he is now visiting all his loved ones.
Just wait a little longer and then you will start to feel him too. He will continue his work from this side. We have met briefly, knowing that we’re gonna be seeing more of each other. He is really, really happy and no doubt he will start making noise shortly!”
Ha-ha, funny Dad. Well, I have questions readers asked me. One of them; How long does it take to really bé there? Is it 40 days, as they say?
“Not quite what happened to me, isn’t it Bon? No, there are no such rigid rules. Isn’t it great that the human brain needs these rules and security, while the soul is so fluid and flexible. There are just no rules for this. It is different for every soul. It depends on how ill your body was, how attached you were to the earth, and most important of all; how you thought –or should I say what your beliefs were- regarding death. It is not easy to experience something if you just cannot believe it could be possible.
That is essential Bonnie. Just like what I told you last time about cells and particles. That theory which was confirmed that same day by the Technical University of Delft. All the above, everything about expectations, perception and materialising will be revealed shortly. The signs are already there.
Therefore, you always have to open up yourself to new possibilities, otherwise you won’t even see them. It will be visible once there will be enough people that see it, that experience it. Then it will really come to life and will be seen and felt in every way, in every corner and by anyone.
The other question about how little humanity learns in spiritual, moral and ethical issues is absolutely true! The reason for that is temptation, of money, power and our belief that we are all separated. We are so convinced about this, that we do not see the truth anymore. The truth that we are all connected, all one. That is the reason why it takes so long to become visible, before we will really experience and feel it. How often do you still think in separateness? You can experience something as reality, but that doesn’t mean it is true. People don’t like changes, and therefore we hang on to old illusions longer than necessary.
But it is beautiful to see how much light is arising on earth. Light that will bring knowledge, that will show you where you really are. For you are in the Universe, not just on earth. This will open your mind, will allow you to see clearer, feel clearer.
What yóu can do, is be a lighthouse. Be a guiding light, no matter the remarks. Light the way, for yourself and others. Shine the light to all your convictions of separateness and limits and then live in joy every day.”
Thank you Dad. There are also questions about where you are, what you are, how you are. And I sense people need clarity in the essential questions in life.
“Well, as I said before, it is not that I don’t want to answer, but it’s just that, from this side, I see that things can be interpreted wrong, because you just don’t have the consciousness yet to understand it. As I said before, all answers have different layers of consciousness. The system on earth with which you judge simply cannot understand the answers that I give you. You heart can though….
And about where we are? The possibilities are endless, all beautiful, all filled with love. Worlds with all gradations of love, but also worlds still filled with ignorance. Also here in the unseen world…. For you still the unseen world, or at least for the most of you. For us, seen. And to be experienced.
I leave here in a beautiful environment that looks a bit like earth, with great nature in which I stroll a lot. But there are also houses, places where we meet for different reasons. Sometimes for manifestations, but also to help, to learn, to experience. All is possible, as long as we open our minds for it. For us also counts that when we limit our minds, we are limited.
I would like to answer also the questions about ‘are we on earth to learn’. Of course you are! And you do. You are also on earth to experience, to love, to manifest and to explore. There is no coincidence, and all that you live through on earth is a learning process. An insight, a more intense state of consciousness. Don’t think that here you will sort of immediately be your higher self. You could, but it depends. You still keep your individuality for a while, although you might have the sensation that you don’t.
By experiencing it all, the part learns the whole. And that it in itself is the whole too. So don’t pressure yourself over these questions. It is important to realize that yóu are the one that can influence life and your experiences in it. And it is important to know, as your heart knows, that life goes on, changes constantly and that we are here to guide you if you need us to.
It all comes down to the amount of love you can feel in your heart and in your life. But the fact remains that the earth still lives in ignorance, power and the thought of separateness.
Ask yourself how much love you experience in your life, and manifest the beautiful dance of life every day. The joy you feel through love will open the door to the unseen world as a gateway to bring light into the darkness. This is how to bring knowledge into ignorance, light into darkness and love into feelings of fear.”
Oh Dad, are the deceased often with their loved ones here on earth?
“Yes they are Bon, but only when you make the contact. If you don’t call upon us, the contact diminishes. Not the love, but the feeling of presence. Love is a continuous flow of energy sent to earth and our loved ones upon earth. We are able to be in multiple places at once. As you have noticed, when some of you wrote my messages at the same time.
I can only advise you, that when you want to be in contact with a beloved deceased, you go to a reliable medium. It can change your life and your sorrow. Which is exactly why we did what we did in our family Bon. I am so happy that there are more and more faithful mediums that receive and pass on our messages. And everyone can train himself to feel your own loved ones. We are immensely grateful for that. “
Thank you Dad. I like that. And how about humour?
“Thank you Bon. There is enough humour! You have seen our space of laughter for yourself, how by laughing you start vibrating to remove all that low and bad energy from your system. En the most healing laughter is to laugh at your own seriousness.”
Thanks Dad. Let’s talk about that some more next time.
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